Monday, April 27, 2009

Haley (Warning: kind of gross)

So tell me. Was I wrong? Because I kind of feel bad, but I kind of don't. Here is the deal:
I hear gagging and someone getting sick. I jump out of bed and run down the hall to the bathroom and I find... nobody. Hmm....
So I call out, "Who is throwing up?"
No answer. "Who is sick?! Where are you?"
No answer. I look in one room, just in time to remember that Abigail is sleeping in my bed. Oh yeah, it can't be her. So I look in another room not expecting to see anyone and there she is, sitting in bed getting sick. Haley. She is just sitting there. Now here is my problem. I have taught my children from an early age that if they get sick it has to be in one of 3 places: the garbage can, a barf bucket or the toilet. But there she was just sitting in bed.
I give her the required pat on the head, and a mumbled sorry about her being sick as I grabbed her and shoved her into the bathroom. I held her hair and wiped her face. I put her in the shower and washed her hair. Once the bed was stripped and she was showered and changed I realised I was mad.
Why was she sitting there in her bed getting sick? What was she thinking? She knows the rules. She knows what has to happen. I am fine with sitting with them when they are sick, I love them after all. I can hold hair, and wipe noses and faces with washcloths, but I do NOT like to clean it up! Lewis won't either. I think it is because when they were little they all projectile vomited after every meal and we have just used up all of that parent power.*
She was sad and tried to explain that she could not make it to the bathroom. She did not know she was going to be sick until it was too late. She is 6 for heaven's sake.
Alright so here is my question for you. I ask because I am irritated. Should I have been nicer to her? Should I have just accepted the mess and cleaned it up happily? I feel like I should have not gotten mad, but I also feel like she should get to the trash in time.
*Parent Powers are powers that parents have that help them deal with their children's "situations". In this case the power I am referring to is the power to clean up nasty messes without gagging. There are in total 25 powers that all parents have. Maybe I will blog them on another day.


ThomandJan said...

Yes, haven't you every gotten sick fast? Think she was in a deep sleep and probably threw up before she knew it....
I know that cleaning up isn't fun at all but you should have been kinder to her... I'm sure that she knows the rules, but at least she didn't try to make it to the trash and throw up all over the carpet and down the hall. Give her a hug and tell her that you love her and that you are sorry that she got sick in the middle of the night!!
Got to love the "MOM" jobs.. they are never endless!!!!!

Miss Kendra said...

I gess I never meant that I was mad. I was just frustrated and irritated. I did not yell at her or anything. Mad was the wrong word. Please excuse me.

Brad and Jeannine said...

Jessica once had a friend spend the night. The friend was in the top bunk and got sick. I heard this crashing and the sound of throwing up. I ran into the room and she had tried to jump off the top bunk to get to the bathroom. She had hit the light fixture, broke it and there was throw up all over the ceiling, walls and the carpet. I felt so bad for her while i cleaned her up. It was about 2 in the morning and I called her mom and no one was home. She spent the night just devestated. I think that is why we are mothers, to comfort and "clean up" after the ones that we love. Just remember that is what you would want someone to do for you. Love you P.S. You are a great mom

The Queen Bee said...

I hear you on the compassion gene. Ryan is usually the one that is the nicest when they are sick. Ellie usually wants dad and not me b/c I don't show too much sympathy. Also, no matter what the situation is if I am woken up in the middle of the night I am not very nice.

Natalie said...

When I was in second grade I had a friend spend the night. She slept on the couch. The white floral couches we were borrowing from my grandmother.
My mom woke up at 4 AM to find her in the bathroom. She apparently had diarrhea in the middle of the night and hadn't gotten off the couch in time. There was poop all over the couch cushions, which she had thoughtfully flipped upside down so nobody would see. There was a poop trail to the bathroom, all over the light switch, the walls, and the toilet. Then she had tried to change, so she had poop all over her suitcase.
By the time I woke up, my mom had washed everything. Although, I don't think the couch cushions ever quite recovered. Don't tell my grandma.

Miss Kendra said...



I would have died. Just died.


Diana Croshaw said...

I don't blame you for being irritated. Just because we're the moms, doesn't mean it's fun to clean up the most disgusting things in the middle of the night. It really is gross, even if it's your own kid! I'm glad you weren't mean to her! And I would die with all that poop everywhere too!